Virtues Language

Virtues Language in school and at home
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Every day, throughout our entire schoolhouse, students in classrooms meet in Response Circles to gather their thoughts, express their concerns, and come to a peaceful resolution regarding issues that may arise. For the past two years, in concert with those circles, we encourage the use of Virtues Language when communicating our thoughts.

It is widely known that language shapes character. The way we speak and the words we use, no matter what the situation, have great power to discourage or to inspire.

Our language has great power to influence the lives of others. Whether telling a child how patient she has been, waiting to be fed, encouraging a teen to tap into his compassion, giving performance feedback to an employee, or telling someone what we love about them, language is a mirror of how we value others.

Language is also the vehicle of thought. Peace Pilgrim, a woman who walked across America for the cause of peace, said, “If we knew how powerful our thoughts were, we would never again have another negative thought.”

When our words are weighty, we need to weigh our words. And they always are. The language of virtues helps us to replace shaming and blaming with personal responsibility and respect. We teach our children that special words can be used as a frame of reference for bringing out the best in each other. It helps us to become the kind of people we want to be.

There are usually three elements of a virtues statement: an opening phrase; a virtue, and how the virtue is being shown or needs to be shown. Two examples would be: It was kind of you to help us out. How can we show courtesy when our visitor arrives?

As we continue to model this mode of communication to our youngsters, it would be wonderful if this same practice was carried on outside of school hours. It is our hope that the virtues way of speaking will become second nature to our youngsters. Please visit The Virtues Project website or reference the print version of the November/December RHR bulletin sent home with your child to learn more about how to speak the Language of Virtues.

In this light, on behalf of the entire Red House Run family, Mrs. Davis and I wish you a Thanksgiving, full of joyfulness.

All the Best,

Ms. Whitney

Ms. Whitney